In modern society, the stigma is gradually being removed from masturbation. Self-satisfaction is less often called a shameful or forbidden activity, and scientific articles recognize it D. Kılıç, H. L. Armstrong, C. A. Graham. The Role of Mutual Masturbation within Relationships: Associations with Sexual Satisfaction and Sexual Self-Esteem / International Journal of Sexual Health A way to develop a positive relationship with your body and increase sexual self-esteem.
But despite such positive changes, masturbation is still considered exclusively a solo practice, and "real" sex with a partner includes penetration and ends with a male orgasm. But such a scenario can cause excitement about an erection, refusal of intimacy due to fatigue, worries about female orgasm , its simulation.
At the same time, mutual masturbation eliminates many of these problems. It can be a great substitute for penetration sex, diversify a couple's sex life and even teach a lot.
Mutual, or joint, masturbation is when two people simultaneously stimulate their genitals or genitals of a partner for the purpose of sexual satisfaction. Lovers can use their hands or sex toys, simultaneously caress other erogenous zones or not touch each other at all.
Despite its simplicity and accessibility, this is not such a common practice. In one small study D. Kılıç, H. L. Armstrong, C. A. Graham. The Role of Mutual Masturbation within Relationships: Associations with Sexual Satisfaction and Sexual Self-Esteem / International Journal of Sexual Health Only 48% of men and 53% of women who have been in a relationship for at least a year reported experiencing mutual masturbation. And almost everyone who tried it liked it.
There are several good reasons to test this practice with a partner.
In the already mentioned survey D. Kılıç, H. L. Armstrong, C. A. Graham. The Role of Mutual Masturbation within Relationships: Associations with Sexual Satisfaction and Sexual Self-Esteem / International Journal of Sexual Health people who reported recent experiences of mutual masturbation were more satisfied with sex than those who did not.
Considering that many women cannot cum during normal penetration, direct stimulation of the clitoris with hands or a sex toy seems to be an excellent alternative to classic sex.
But such an experience is pleasant not only for women: in the survey, men were even more likely to declare positive emotions from such a practice.
You know best how and where to touch, for how long and with what intensity to do it in order to give you the most pleasure and bring you to orgasm.
If you are a woman, mutual masturbation will show your partner how sensitive the clitoris becomes when aroused. How to touch it to bring you to orgasm, as well as at what angle you need to insert your finger into the vagina.
If you are a man, your partner will understand how to squeeze the scrotum or put pressure on the perineum, how intensively to move your hand.
Masturbating with a partner, you can explore each other much better than just discussing your characteristics or moving forward through trial and error.
During penetration sex, women often take longer to reach orgasm. Moreover, without additional stimulation of the clitoris, it may not happen at all.
Mutual masturbation removes this gap, and with it many worries and experiences that prevent you from having fun. It doesn't matter who comes first and how long the erection lasts: both are guaranteed to reach orgasm.
In the book M. Klein. Sexual intelligence. What is your SQ and why is it more important than technique? about sexual intelligence, sexologist Marty Klein says that even smart people are often very irresponsible about contraception.
Partners who do not want to have children refuse condoms because of the "wrong" feelings, and women do not drink birth control pills, fearing for their health. And this prevents you from completely relaxing.
During mutual masturbation, there is no risk of getting pregnant and minimal risk of catching an STD. Although, if you have sex with an unreliable partner, it is better to make sure that your biological fluids do not mix.
Here are some tips on how to make it pleasant for both of you.
The easiest option is to position yourself as you are comfortable and start masturbating while looking at your partner. You can also try the following:
It is not necessary to masturbate with your hands, especially if you usually connect sex toys in private.
You can use a vaginal or anal vibrator, a non—contact masturbator, anal plugs and balls - anything that brings you pleasure. In addition, with the help of a sex toy, you can provide additional stimulation to your partner, which will give a brighter orgasm.
If it is difficult for you to stay in contact with your partner during self-satisfaction, try masturbating one at a time. One of the lovers touches himself, and the other watches or helps by stimulating erogenous zones. And then they change.
