Do a little test: pay attention to how you behave with a partner in a bar or restaurant. Do you look around to see who else is around? Are you wondering who can see you together? Or are you just happy that you two are together, and vice versa you want to be noticed with him or her? If the latter is true, your partner has passed the test.

2. The partner is happy about your success

In an unhealthy relationship, one person often harms the interests of another. Sincere joy for your achievements is a sign that this will not happen. To do this, the partner must be satisfied with his own life. Then he will rejoice in your success with you.

"It's easier for couples who value each other's needs and interests to compromise than for couples in which everyone thinks only about themselves," says Laura Vanderdrift, a psychologist at Syracuse University.

3. The partner is not trying to change you

If a partner behaves the same way with you in public and in private, treats you with patience, you are on the right track. However, it does not hurt to listen to your intuition more often. She often sends us signals if something goes wrong, but we ignore them.

For example, if a partner tries to change you or does not accept you for who you are, this is a sign that a person likes to control others. He will never treat you with respect.

Figure out the question 🤨

I want to remake the partner. Is everything okay with me? And with our relationship?

4. Partner fits into your life

Think about whether your partner's life intersects with yours outside of the relationship. Does he get along with other people in your life? Do you get along with his friends and family? Do you have common interests and activities? If so, that's a good sign.

5. The partner is listening to you

According to the psychologist Elinor Greenberg, it's good if your partner is genuinely interested in your life and listens carefully when you talk. And also remembers what you told about yourself. If he almost always talks only about himself, does not ask about you, does not listen to your words, it is unlikely that he is interested in you. He just needs to speak out.

6. A partner comforts you when you are sad

Remember how your partner behaves when you are sad or have had a hard day. Perhaps he shows empathy and is not distracted when you talk about your experiences. Knows when to just hug.

But if you are criticized for being sad, or they say that you are overreacting, this is an alarming sign. This behavior can be a sign of narcissism. Maybe later it will seem to you that you really reacted sharply. You still need to be listened to at a difficult moment.

7. The partner does not hide his emotions

In a healthy relationship, partners express their feelings and resolve conflicts. If you hush up discontent, irritation will only grow.

"A quarrel in this case is not a way to hurt another, but an opportunity to learn," explains psychotherapist Jonathan Marshall. "Basically, you're telling your partner, 'This is how your brain works, this is what I feel, we can learn from this and move on.'"