Probably, all people periodically wonder:"Where am I going, and what do I want to see at the end of the path?" But not many people can give a clear answer to this, and yet a global goal will help in a difficult moment not to give up, not to get lost in life and always know what you really want. There is one way, simple and complex at the same time, with which you can find your goal and not doubt that it is real.
Both old age and experience lead at the same time
By the last hour, when it is destined
To understand after long worries and torment,
That in life we walked the path of delusion.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Schopenhauer describes a creepy perspective, but it becomes much more real if you don't know what you are going to in life at all. There are small goals: to buy a house, start a family, earn the respect of colleagues at work, get a high position, but there is no big one.
Someone will say that it is not needed at all, that not knowing where you are going, you will definitely not go wrong with the road, and this is to some extent true.
But what will this road be — a bright and joyful path or a thorny valley with "worries and hardships"? When a person feels good, he does not think about the meaning and purpose, the most trash begins when he feels bad, bored, sad. That's when you need some kind of meaning or purpose, you need to find it to keep moving. And it's good if a ready-made goal becomes such a beacon, so as not to rush around in the darkness of their fears and pens.
It seems that it is very difficult, especially when you have never thought about it. All sorts of imposed values come into my head, and the only reaction to them is: "This stuff can't be my global goal. In fact, she doesn't mean anything to me at all."
In order to find a goal that really means something, you don't have to go to an oracle or live in a monastery for five years. The method will take from 20 minutes to an hour, but before you start, you need to understand a few provisions:
Many people associate the word "goal" with material benefits or some huge achievements. Come to terms with the idea that this may not be the case. To accept the possibility that your goal will sound and look quite prosaic and not sublime from the outside, means to sacrifice megalomania for the sake of a happy life.
In addition, your goal does not necessarily lie in a familiar area, where you have been looking for your purpose since your student or even school years. Just be prepared for the fact that it may turn out to be something completely unfamiliar to you.
The only criterion for a real goal: it brings pleasure. A person strives for constant enjoyment, moreover, it can be obtained from anything — from a job well done, from the process of this work, from communication, knowledge.
You can call your global goal a global source of pleasure that will last a lifetime. So you can check your goal after searching: if you don't get a buzz from it, then it's definitely not her.
As promised, the method is simple:
The bottom line is that when the real goal appears on the sheet in front of you, there will be a violent emotional reaction from it, which can end in tears.
Because over the years of your life, a lot of ideas have accumulated in your head about why you need to live and what to strive for. First of all, they will be on your sheet, and in order not to confuse them, keep an eye on the emotional state. If the goal doesn't cause any emotions, it's definitely not her.
Some people may take 20 minutes to do this, others will sit for an hour, everything is individual here. The main thing is not to give up. After the first 100 responses that do not cause any emotions, it may seem to you that this is stupid and it is not worth wasting your time on it. If you overcome this feeling, you will learn something valuable, isn't it worth spending an extra half hour for this?
Even while writing, several options may appear that cause you an emotional uplift, but not a strong one. Mark such answers, perhaps they are part of a global goal, and it will be easier for you to find it.
I hope you will succeed.
