Techniques to help determine whether your interlocutor is lying are often used by the police and security experts, but will be useful to everyone – using them, you will not become a victim of fraudsters and scammers.
Warning: Sometimes ignorance is happiness; it may hurt you when you find out that someone is lying to you.
Here are some signs of deception.
Body language:
The gestures are stingy and constrained, the hands move little and more often towards the speaker: they reach for the face, mouth and throat, the person touches the nose, scratches behind the ear.
- The liar tries not to look into the eyes of the interlocutor.
- The one who deceives will not bring an open hand to the stomach or the heart area.
Emotional gestures and inconsistencies:
- The manifestation of emotions stops as suddenly as it begins. The reaction may be slow or last longer than necessary.
- Speech and facial expression do not correspond to each other. A liar who receives a gift will say "I like it" and only then smile – instead of doing it at the same time.
- Facial expressions and gestures do not correspond to what was said – furrowed eyebrows at the words "I love you."
- The facial expression is reflected only in the movements of the mouth, not the whole face. When a person actually smiles, everything moves, with a "duty smile" the eyes remain motionless.
Interactions and reactions:
- A liar feels uncomfortable when he looks at his interlocutor; tries to turn away;
- places objects (a book, a cup of coffee, etc.) in the space between you, subconsciously trying to isolate himself.
Verbal context and content:
- The question is converted into an answer, for example: "Did you eat the last cookie?" — "No, I didn't eat the last cookie."
- Hints instead of openly denying.
- The guilty person adds unnecessary details, feels uncomfortable during pauses in the conversation.
- He speaks monotonously and omits pronouns. When the truth is told, pronouns are distinguished as much or even more than other words in the sentence.
- Distorts words or speaks very softly; builds speech grammatically incorrectly.
Other signs of lying:
- If you think your interlocutor is lying, try to quickly change the subject of the conversation. The deceiver will willingly support you, and the innocent will be embarrassed by the sudden change and will want to continue talking about the previous topic.
- A liar often avoids a "sick" topic with humor or sarcasm.
Obviously, if you see these signs in someone, it does not mean that he is a liar. The behavior described above should be compared with the normal behavior of this person, if possible.
How to Detect Lies
