The main reason for dissatisfaction with life is shifting responsibility for its quality to others. Sometimes an acute desire to please everyone is added to this. As a result, your life ceases to belong to you, and you feel more and more unhappy every day.
You need to take life into your own hands.
No one can and should be responsible for your well-being. If you think that one day happiness will just knock on your door, get ready for the fact that you will have to wait a long time, and life in such expectation will definitely not be happy.
Many of us spend time and money to earn the favor of others. When your whole life is built around the desires of others, you become a hostage, stop living for yourself and making your own decisions. This does not mean that you need to forget about your family and friends and turn into an egoist. Spend time with your loved ones, take care of them, but not for the sake of your happiness.
Think about it: how much time does it take to wait for love and approval from the second half, parents or just acquaintances? But these minutes could be spent usefully for yourself.
Your well—being is only your responsibility. Try to find sources of happiness that only you control. These can be interesting hobbies, significant events for you and goals for the future.
You have to take responsibility for yourself. We cannot change the season or circumstances, but we can change ourselves.
Setting your own rules is the best way to live a happy and fulfilling life. To do this, you need to realize that everything you do is your personal choice, which has nothing to do with the people around you.
Taking responsibility for your happiness is always scary. At first, you can return to the old dead-end scenarios and again fall under the influence of others.
To understand whether you are moving in the right direction or not, regularly ask yourself four diagnostic questions:
These questions will help you understand how attached you are to others, as well as identify your hobbies and goals.
Happiness is an inner work. Never transfer responsibility for your well-being into the wrong hands.
Remember that you have only one life, and you are responsible for its quality. Don't be afraid to create your own happiness.
