A person has a thousand reasons to worry every day: the uncertainty of the future, internal conflicts, difficulties in relationships and fear for the health of loved ones. But what if it is instability that creates the best conditions for personal development?
This phenomenon is being investigated by positive medicine physician Jordin Feingold and psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman. In their book, they analyze the principles of post—traumatic growth - the ability of a person to come out of crisis situations with positive psychological changes, that is, with a new outlook on himself and the world.
According to the authors' theory, stress from suffering becomes a catalyst for changes that do not necessarily manifest themselves externally, but help a person feel more confident. However, it is important to remember: trauma itself does not help to grow, development is facilitated by a person's attitude to life's obstacles. The book will teach you to perceive difficulties not as a threat, but as a challenge, and use them to stimulate personal growth.
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Crisis is an uncomfortable and uncomfortable state in which a person cannot continue driving along the usual route and often does not know how to steer on the right road.
Psychologist Leonid Krol shares step-by-step instructions with recommendations and exercises for diagnosing and overcoming various crisis situations: broken relationships, work mistakes, unrealized desires, existential searches, loss of loved ones and more.
The author offers to face his demons and explains why it is necessary to work closely with her to solve the problem. Not only to develop new skills, grow and transform internally, but also to notice small important details, learn to behave in a new way in old circumstances, or, in the end, change the attitude to the problem if its solution does not depend much on the efforts made.
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One of the crises that almost every person sooner or later faces is the crisis of meanings. As a rule, it happens at the end of a turning point in life: leaving work after many years of service, completing a grandiose project, achieving a certain status, or retiring.
The joy of the result is quickly replaced by the thought that the most important thing is already behind us and a person is not capable of more. He can only drag out his existence quietly and peacefully.
American business consultant Stephen Covey suggests looking at your life as a piece of music. A rare composition begins with a loud, intense sound. The sound in the song increases from beat to beat, from chord to chord. So it is in life: the meaning of existence grows from achievement to achievement. You just need to remember that the most important thing is always ahead. In the book, the author teaches how to find meanings at any age and status.
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Misfortunes never come alone. Often, troubles at work are exacerbated by a crisis in relationships, and financial difficulties affect health and social life. As a result, external stress increases, and misunderstanding how to deal with it leads to a decrease in self-esteem and loss of self-confidence.
The good news is that problems are rarely unique. This means that there are proven methods of solving them, which are proposed for consideration by psychologist and writer Mike Annesley.
All situations are taken from the personal experience of the author or the experts he contacted during the preparation of the book. A variety of life problems are touched upon: fears and anxiety, low self-esteem, nervous overloads, failures, issues of health, love and hardships. Analyzing the problem, the psychologist gives a "quick" solution that will help minimize stress, and offers more detailed instructions for in-depth work with the situation.
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Any crises fade against the background of the loss of a loved one. But the feeling of irreparable loss can also arise in other situations: with a painful divorce, the loss of a loved one's personality due to a serious illness. On average, it takes at least a year to live through such grief. However, efforts must be made to help the psyche to resist and then recover.
Psychologist Alexander Ryazantsev has developed his own algorithm for overcoming grief. It is built on the basis of twenty years of research and experience working with thousands of patients. The algorithm is based on the need to live the loss. If the main stages of grieving — denial, anger, sadness and guilt — are not lived through, a person gets bogged down in loss, closes himself in it and cannot move towards a new meaning of life. As a result, psychological and physical consequences occur: depression, problems with eating behavior, diseases.
Alexander Ryazantsev examines each of the stages of living with loss and in his book gives practical recommendations for those who have faced loss themselves, and for those who are nearby and want to help.
However, Mark Manson, the author of the world bestseller "The Subtle Art of Indifference", advises to abandon expectations of the best and faith in world justice. Instead, he suggests another paradoxical way to live happily — to learn to accept reality as it is, with all the problems and troubles, and focus on the quality of your own life in the current conditions.
For arguments in favor of his theory, he turns to the works of Nietzsche, Newton and Plato. The resulting book consists of small chapters that can be read in chronological order or as independent essays.
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In the spring of 2020, when the whole world was in fear of the unknown due to the outbreak of the pandemic, psychotherapist Ekaterina Sigitova gathered an online group of like-minded people to experience sudden changes, the collapse of hopes, failures and the losses associated with the situation. It turned out that regardless of the depth of the crises, the mechanism of their residence is the same. Having compiled the results of weekly meetings, Ekaterina received a universal workshop on how to get out of any difficult situation.
The theoretical part of the book is devoted to how to support yourself in difficult periods, find strength in fear and insecurity, and cope with emotions. The chapters are supplemented with examples from the author's personal and professional experience, as well as practical exercises for each of the ten stages necessary to overcome an emotional storm.
The psychologist advises not to rush and not to look for quick self-help tips in the book. It will be more effective to follow the method step by step, conducting deep work with consciousness in order to ride the wave and get out of the storm.
